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By Cosmo Landesman for MailOnline. The one you are absolutely certain has no sexual interest in you whatsoever? That man is a liar. That man is a cheat. He is a con man guilty of friendship fraud. I know this because that man is me. At the age of ten, I fell in love with a girl called Pamela. Too shy to tell her how I felt, we stayed friends right through the hormonal onslaught of adolescence.
She blossomed into a great beauty; I blossomed into a chubby blob. The film When Harry Met Sally first raised the question of whether men and women can ever be just friends. Sally, played by Meg Ryan, disagreed.
This week, science has declared that Harry was right all along. In a survey by the University of Wisconsin, 88 sets of young male and female friends were asked to rate their attraction to each other in a confidential questionnaire. It found that men — whether attached or single — were more likely to be attracted to their female friends and want to go on a date with them than the other way around.
Put simply, it means that given half a chance, most men would jump at the opportunity of having sex with their female friends. And yet, despite what these and other researchers have discovered over the past two decades, many women still believe a man can carry on a friendship with a woman, free from any thought of hanky panky.
It would be wonderful if men could be friends with a woman without ever imagining what it would be like to sleep with them. They say that men think about sex every seven seconds. While this may be an exaggeration, we certainly think about our female friends in ways that would make them blush. As far as guys are concerned, friendship is merely an aphrodisiac. A man can meet a woman who Man looking for female friendship not, at first glance, that attractive or his type. For three decades I did my duty as a loyal and devoted friend — I was the shoulder to cry on, the dispenser of tea and sympathy, hugs, advice and brotherly affection.
I hid my disappointment when she gushed to me about her latest love, just as I hid my delight when it all went wrong. I did this because what I always carried with me was hope. I clung to the belief that one day Pamela might change her mind.
And that day — or, rather, that drunken night — actually happened. OK, so it took 30 years for it to occur, but one morning I woke up in bed next to my best female friend. Loyal shoulder to cry on: But the male friends of many women secretly yearn for their relationships to escalate beyond the purely platonic, research shows.
When I attempted to cross the friendship line with one woman, she slapped my face. My friend Lorraine just burst out laughing when I tried it on with her — and her reaction hurt far more than the other two. But the most disastrous encounter was with a woman I will call Emma, who I met during my university days.
We had a year friendship. I never missed a birthday or a note of congratulation when she got her degree, married her husband or gave birth to her children. I was the perfect male friend — until her marriage broke down. Distraught at the break-up of her marriage, I did what a friend is supposed to do: I took her out to drown her sorrows. Yes, I confess that at the back of my mind was the thought that I could be in with a shot. And then many drinks later, in the words of the old Frank and Nancy Sinatra song, I went and spoiled it all by doing something stupid — like making a lunge for her.
It seems that when a man discovers that a good female friend harbours sexual feelings Man looking for female friendship him he is flattered, but when a woman makes that discovery she feels saddened. For women, friendship is about trust. When they say they want a cuddle, they really do just want a cuddle. When a man says he wants a cuddle, he means that he will tolerate one in the hope it le to sex. Keep those feelings hidden: Any attempt by men to get their secret feelings for female friends out into the open is liable to backfire, this writer advises. But what is a chap supposed to do?
If you hide your sexual feelings you feel like a fraud — but if you are honest and open your heart you can end up being condemned. So can the expectations and desires between men and women who are friends ever be reconciled?
Only if men realise that having sexual desire for a woman who is just your friend is fine — but trying to do something about it is not. My success with Pamela was an exception to the rule.
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Sorry, ladies - but we men can NEVER just be your friends: As scientific research confirms what he learnt the hard way, COSMO LANDESMAN gets a few things off his chest